Some of us have a cancer cell of perfectionism. The continuity of the behavior of crashing down from high expectations persists. At this point, it doesn’t matter from whom the expectation is. Expectations, under all circumstances, are as incompatible with reality as the behavior itself. This incompatible form of behavior that only drags a person down also brings along fear, and fear causes anger. Those who seek perfection not only in themselves but also in others will undoubtedly experience the same pattern.
This type of cancer is insidious. Although the symptoms are obvious, it is often confused with “the expectation of success” or “idealism.” Sentences like “all or nothing” and harsh criticisms that strike a blow to self-esteem are the main symptoms of this insidious disease. Those afflicted by this disease are haunted by a fear greater than the fear brought on by their greatest phobia, the fear of making mistakes. You can recognize people suffering from the woes of perfectionism by the anger that appears on their faces when they receive criticism. The style of upbringing, “environmental factors” that make the sentence unpleasant, and various factors we often hear about, such as the pressure of a society that shows nothing but pressure, are the reasons why this type of cancer emerges in the body. This disease loves bodies with low self-esteem the most because these individuals believe they will only be valuable if they are flawless.
Those who have fallen victim to this terrible disease often choose to deceive themselves into thinking that there is “no problem” instead of seeking treatment. However, perfection is not real. Only those who reach perfection are doomed to dissatisfaction. While they think they are progressing on the path to perfection, they miss out on the beauty of the journey. They become blinded by the details and fail to reach the foundation. If you think you or someone around you is suffering from this cancer; first take a deep breath calmly, then remind the afflicted person that they are human and that perfection is only a dream. After reminding them that criticism is not an attack, encourage the afflicted person to focus on the moment they are experiencing and the path they are walking. If these methods don’t work, you can also consult a professional.
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